When it comes to planning your wedding day, it’s inevitable that you’ll run into a few surprises. After all, you don’t know what you don’t know, right?! I think my brides know that my heart is to do so much more than just show up on the wedding day- I want them to be able to savor their entire engagement and prepare for a strong future together! And so it’s with that in mind that I’m excited to share a new series on the blog to serve and help prepare all brides who are walking this journey, starting with What No One Tells You About Wedding Planning!
YOU DON’T HAVE TO START PLANNING RIGHT AWAY
You just got engaged and everyone’s asking questions! When is it? Where is it? What does your dress look like? It leaves you feeling like you MUST start wedding planning the moment you get the ring on your finger. But there are two downsides to this- first, you need a little time to sit back and just enjoy being engaged before you jump into planning. And two, it is possible to start planning too early. Trends change and picking things out two years in advance may mean you are a little sad with your choices once you get to the big day. If you know you want a highly in-demand vendor, certain venue, or popular date definitely grab those up, but work with your wedding planner to choose your style and décor choices at the right time.
SOMEONE’S FEELINGS WILL GET HURT
A friend secretly expected to be a bridesmaid, your mother-in-law read something into what you said, or a distant relative is offended they weren’t invited – you are almost guaranteed to make someone upset no matter how hard you try. As much as it hurts your heart, know that it’s impossible to please everyone and sometimes that’s ok.
WEDDINGS ARE EXPENSIVE
Who knew that planning a wedding day could cost so much money?! When you get down to it, a wedding is a luxury, not an essential event, and that means every aspect of it is accompanied by a luxury cost. Don’t stress- It’s completely normal to experience sticker shock at the beginning! Make sure there is a buffer in your budget for all those extra fees (tax, tips, service charges, etc) and prioritize the aspects of the wedding that are MOST important to you.
THE UNSOLICITED ADVICE WILL CONTINUE TO ROLL IN
The moment you announce your engagement you will be hit with two things: so many questions and so much advice! Your family and friends mean well and genuinely just want to help! But sometimes you might wish they’d just stop telling you what to do and how to do it.
IT’S A CRASH COURSE IN CONTRACTS
Uh oh adulting! This actually might be the first time in your life you are having to read contracts and every single vendor will have one (or should. If they don’t then I’d be worried!). As boring as it may be, make sure to read every bit of those contracts and know what you are signing.
YOU AND YOUR FIANCE WILL DISAGREE (AND YOU’LL BE DISAPPOINTED)
Dusty rose everything may sound amazing to you, but that doesn’t mean your fiancé likes it. No matter how involved or uninvolved they are in the wedding planning, you’re bound to disagree about something. It’s ok to be disappointed that you aren’t getting exactly what you envisioned, but remember that it’s their wedding day too and try to accommodate their tastes (especially if they are only making a few assertions and letting you decide everything else!).
IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE “SO MUCH WORK”
Weddings can be overwhelming, but a lot of brides make them even more work than they have to be by not hiring an experienced wedding planner, taking on too many DIY projects, or getting too wrapped up in perfecting the details. Invest in a professional who will bring your vision to life, spread things out over the entire engagement, and don’t bite off more than you can chew.
YOUR WEDDING CAN BE EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT IT TO BE
Good news! If you don’t want to, you don’t have to send Save the Dates. You don’t have to do a unity ceremony. You don’t have to do a bouquet or garter toss. The greatest thing about it being YOUR wedding is that you can choose to highlight the things that are important to you! So if you’d rather have a cocktail hour BEFORE the ceremony instead of after, skip out on exchanging wedding rings, or wear your favorite pair of earrings instead of buying something new- you can! Let your wedding be an expression of you two and what you both love.
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Lindsey LaRue is a Georgia Wedding Photographer for Heirloom Couples Who Love Timeless, Romantic, and Legacy-filled Imagery. Serving the Southeastern US and Beyond, Traveling Often.